LoveLIFEnLessons

Anonymous asked: This is not a question but I just wanted to thank you for taking the time to reply to everyone's question here and being real. There should definitely be more people like you. I hope I continue to run into people like you in the future because it reminds me that there ARE good people in the world. Continue to spread your positivity and again, thank you! :)

always a pleasure :) <3 Thanks for the acknowledgement!!! I appreciate it!! <3

Anonymous asked: could you do a vlog on your college experience and tips for college students, especially freshmen?

Sure :)

Anonymous asked: Hey rachel! i know you've probably gotten tons of questions like this, but how do you get over someone who was your first everything? first love and all. How do you move on? :/

Damn, that’s hard girl .. it’s gonna take a minute .. you’ll have to let it marinate for a little and you’ll find yourself dwelling a lot trying to make sense of the whole thing .. 

You have to remember that you’re strong and you can get thru it. Surround yourself with positive people and things to keep your spirits up. Take up a new hobby to focus your energy somewhere or focus on things you love to do. Find an outlet for yourself so you don’t spend time dwelling. :)

Anonymous asked: Hi there, I read your answer on one of the anonymous postings about the pesky girl that her boyfriend was friends with. I'm not sure if your licensed to give out advice to other girls or have such a perfect relationship to begin with. To me, I feel this is a biased advice that you gave to the poor lady. Please find something else to do, (what your good at) continue to eat miss thick chick!

Clearly it’s not even any of your business …. 

I give advice to anyone who asks me for it — that’s the whole point to this blog — a ton of my viewers asked me to put this up, it’s not like i’m just sitting here acting like a “licensed professional” giving out advice. 

Some girls are just weak when it comes to relationships — there’s nothing wrong with that; i was just keeping it real with her. She’s buggin over a silly ass girl when she should be focused on keeping her man happy so he won’t wander. There was nothing biased about what i said, i feel for the girl too and have been thru what she’s going thru, which is exactly why i gave her that advice — because i don’t want her being stupid about it, i want her acting MATURE about it. I don’t want to see her get hurt, simple as that. It’s called TOUGH LOVE.

Might wanna mind your own business next time ANONYMOUS. :)

Anonymous asked: Okay, I have a really big problem. My boyfriend and I have been together for about 8 months. There is one pesky girl that he used to talk to before we were officially together. She is in love with him and she can't seem to let him go. The problem is, he isn't innocent in any of this. He talks to her too. He sees her. We have already gotten in huge fights about this girl. Then he says they don't talk anymore. And I'm trying to trust him. I recently found out they still talk. What do I do?

Why does this “pesky girl” even bother you? So what if your man talks to her and hangs out with her — are they fucking? is he cheating on you? is he tryna be with her instead of you? i mean c’mon now … if he sees her as just a friend, then you have nothing to worry about. it’ll be her issue if she’s in love with him and he doesn’t like her like that. You’re so focused on this girl and her behavior when you should be more worried about your man and if he’ll do anything about it. As far as you’re concerned, she’s a silly little girl in love with YOUR man. If i were you, i’d throw that shit in her face — “this is MY man hunnie and you’re just wishful thinking…” .. but you have to make sure your man is trustworthy. He’s telling you they don’t talk anymore because you keep getting mad about it and it’s petty — he probably feels like telling you would tick you off anyway, so what difference does it make? a lot of guys always like to just say whatever to get out of an argument. Why are you even fighting about her? Sounds like it’s all you that’s starting it… i’d think about that and rethink your strategy. To say he “isn’t innocent” doesn’t say much — so what if he talks to her? So what if he sees her? Is he actually doing anything? have you caught them slippin and they messed around? If they’re really just friends, let this shit go and be more mature about it. acting insecure about it won’t help you, it’ll make you look controlling, insecure and psycho — 3 things guys hate and want to avoid at all costs. ;)

Anonymous asked: Hey Rachel! So I'm a high school senior and I've never had a serious relationship. It never really bothered me until recently. A lot of my friends are in relationships and I feel like I'm missing out on something. Also, I feel that since I'm starting college in the fall, I'm kind of inexperienced. :p What do you think?

girl, please — you’re in HIGH SCHOOL. You want to be in a serious relationship?? The way i see it, use this time now to DATE, not be SERIOUS. You’re so young, you have hella time, trust me. I had my first boyfriend when i was 17 and although i don’t regret it, i do wish i took my time because after that, i had a series of “serious” relationships and never took the time to date around to figure out what i really wanted in a guy. Don’t feel like you’re missing out on anything — if anything, when you get to college, you’ll be a hidden gem because all the other girls are either taken or can’t have fun cuz they’re in relationships and you’re still free and available ;) hay girl hayyyy! ;)

Anonymous asked: I know you've answered this before but where do you get your colored lenses & what color do you wear? Thanks in advance!

i wear all different kinds of colors and the majority of them are from kiwiberry :)

Anonymous asked: I'm too nervous and shy to show this guy how I feel about him. I want him to know but when im around him all I do is avoid him and get nervous. My friend says it looks as if I'm not into him. I dont want him to think that. How can I show my feelings?

How can you show your feelings …. i don’t know what better way to show it than to just do it, lol .. it’s really not that hard, but you have to be able to control your emotions, otherwise, you won’t ever have a successful relationship with anyone :T If you can’t be connected to your emotions, how do you expect to be in love? :T

Anonymous asked: I recently moved away to college and my high school boyfriend of three years broke up with me through a random TEXT MESSAGE one day. He's been unsure about a long distance relationship, but we both decided just to give a shot for a couple months. When i texted back to talk about it.. he simply ignored my text and acted like he didn't give a fuck about anything. Ever since then he hasn't talked to me. I mean, don't I even deserve an explanation? or even a FUCKING PHONE CALL? What the hell do I do?? How do I get over a break up?

damn, that’s cold.. he may as well have written you a post-it note and stuck it on your laptop .. *smh* .. what a douche…

Sorry to hear that he did that to you, that’s pretty fukd up :T I hope he’s talked to you by now — if not, i’d just let yourself be angry about it so you can move on faster. Know what i mean? I’m not saying you should harvest some anger in you, but sometimes it helps to be mad about it so you can get over it. Because over time, the anger will subside and eventually you’ll be like “ugh whatever, i’m over it.” As opposed to you being sad and moping about it for days, months, etc. Being sad takes a harder toll on you because you find yourself thinking about it all the time. It’s better to keep yourself busy so it gets your mind off of it. And being mad will encourage you to be like “oh, fukk it.” and do something else with your life rather than pine over him, you know?

good luck boo <3 hope u feel better!!

Anonymous asked: How can you tell the difference between if a guy likes you....or if he loves you??

girl, ya just know ;) you can literally FEEL IT .. and he does things for you that are out of the ordinary for him .. and that he doesn’t do for anyone else unless he cares for them.

For example, one of my best guy friends, he’s never been in love .. he’s only really cared about someone .. he’s very selfish and hardly does anything thoughtful - he just has a hard time connecting his emotions with things. He was dating this girl and really did the most for her on a random day just cuz he felt like she deserved it. It was a small gesture to her, but a much bigger one for him. And there were times that he would be happy just laying in bed with her or 5 extra mins before work just because he knew he wasn’t gonna see her for a week. And would also kiss her goodbye, because he was afraid that would be the last time he saw her… see, It’s things like that that help you understand the difference between like and love.

Anonymous asked: I recently found out my boyfriend was talking to another girl when I kind of being nosy on his facebook without him knowing. He calls her "baby" and such, uses hearts and whatnot when he chats with her, talks to her all the time, like he used to with me, and has even invited her over to his house. I was extremely hurt. How do I confront him about this without directly telling him that I violated his privacy? & Is there any chance of reconciliation or is this flat out cheating and our relationship is totally over?

It depends on what your definition of cheating is, but in my book, talking to someone new isn’t cheating, it’s actually DOING SOMETHING that’s cheating.. like kissing, sex, etc. But there’s also EMOTIONAL CHEATING, which it sounds like what he did.

I can’t say your relationship is over just because he cheated — that’s up to you.

You have to tell him .. he can be mad about you violating his privacy, but he’ll only be mad cuz you found out. He should feel stupid that he even tried to hide it from you when he could have been honest with himself and just break up with you. He can’t have both of you and some guys try to do that. At the same time, he could also be talking to someone new cuz he’s not happy with you and that’s something you will have to duke out with him.

If you can forgive him for what he did, given that he didn’t go any further than just talking to her and flirting with her, then there IS reconciliation and you two can work it out. Otherwise, i’d call it quits if homie already has his eye on someone else. But that’s just me, i can’t stand shit like that — if my man isn’t happy with me, i either make him happy and find a compromise, or set him free to go ahead and be with someone else who DOES make him happy. Sometimes you just have to be reasonable and realistic .. so the choice is yours. :)

Anonymous asked: please,give me advice!!So i have been dated one guy,i rly like him and he likes me too,he treated me like no other,but for no reason i cheated on him once and i just feel so bad for it.I didnt wanted him to know about this situation but he said that he knows about everything i've done.i just feel so bad, i said him that i don kno why this happend and that i REALLY like him,he said that he is in shock and he cant trust me anymore,he asked me whay i did that to him please, can you give me an advice, what should i do? how to save our relationship? or maybe im not ready for sereous relationships yet? i dont know what to do(( please, help me! and im sorry,my english is really poor

i can’t give you advice on what to do because you already did the one thing that you shouldn’t have. if you really liked him and he was good to you, this was definitely your bad choice of cheating on him that brought you here. Can you still save the relationship? Only if he forgives you. It doesn’t sound like you’re ready for a serious relationship, especially if you can’t respect someone’s feelings.

Anonymous asked: me and my guy have been together for ~3years. He's the only person that I've ever been with. He wants me to get with other guys (part so I can experience another, part as a fantasy of his). I said I would try it out, but i don't know if I can bring myself to actually sleep with someone else. I'm torn between making him happy by fulfilling a fantasy of his and feeling "dirty" after sleeping with someone else. Any advice?

girl … i’m all about fulfilling your man’s fantasy and all, but that’s going overboard. It’s like he’s telling you that his fantasy is you being a whore. LOL … or he’s being sneaky and teling you to get with other guys to “experience another” so that he can feel free to do the same.

if you guys have been together for 3 years and he wants you to “experience” other guys? he probably wants to experience other girls … not making a judgment, just offering some insight …. 

Anonymous asked: hey rach, ok so there's this guy who SAYS he "likes me" but he has a gf, ignores me whenever he's with his friends and basically in public. but he texts me saying that he he wants to kiss me, he likes me and feels that we are gonna be a couple in the future and this other bullshit and i always catch him staring at me if we ever are in the same room or he tries to show off to get my attention. i deleted his number and stopped talknig to him but he still does this can you tell me what his deal is?

What’s his deal? Homeboy needs therapy. LOL. No really though .. he’s obviously confused and doesn’t know what he wants. Tell him to leave you alone because you’re just not interested. Why would you wanna be with a guy who has a girlfriend but wants to be with someone else?? :T

Anonymous asked: (I truly need your help) She is a lesbian&I'm straight. She is sending me signals that she likes me. I'm starting to get intimidated by her. the way she looks at me makes me feel so uncomfortable. what do i do? :'( I'm scared. Please help me16 her17

Let her know that you don’t swing her way. What’s so complicated…? :T